First of all I have to say greetings to all my blogger buddies out there. I know it’s been a long time since I made my last entry, but I’ve been through a tough year where basically my actions had resulted in me going through a process of rehabilitation which was necessary in order for me to get myself back together again. My topic today which I’d like to share with all of you revolves around the subject of ‘Human Artlessness’, now what do I mean by that in the first place? Well the picture that I’m trying to paint here is that of Man in his computer-like brain; sometimes tending to look only into his immediate circumstances and beliefs and trying to change the whole environment around him without even looking to see how the environment is going to react to the changes that He may SELF-impose upon it.

Most of these instances pass by without the individual ever really knowing the consequences of his or her actions! Another point I’d like to highlight before you get too confused with my writing is that I’m not trying to say that this happens only when somebody is doing something HARMFUL to himself or others but the area I’m trying to focus on mainly is what people do sometimes with the best of intentions!.....’Destructive Criticism’ These nuances can range from something said to a small child to even let’s say religious leaders trying to manipulate the people. Let me try to cite a few examples here:

A child going to secondary school maybe starting to feel the urge to experience ‘new’ things and sometimes parents (with the best of intensions) may try to correct the child by placing strict consequences for the child’s actions. Most children will tend to just obey their parents because they are just scared shitless to go against them and will deter from the path they are taking in order to remain on good terms with their parents BUT sometimes you tend to run into people like me….hehe….who might take real offence at the fact of someone trying to place barriers so that he or she will not be able to do that again….whatever it might be, without even trying to understand the persons thoughts or intensions behind the action! So what happens, the child instead of being told ‘understandingly’ about whatever the child is doing tends to REBEL against the parents because he or she can see that their parents are just trying to SELF-impose themselves upon them and they just don’t feel comfortable with it because the parents aren’t trying to really be a friend of theirs but a JUDGE in their lives!

Another citation which just cropped up in my mind was something that has bothered some close friends of mine in their growing up process, ‘forceful manipulation’- making the child do something he or she has just not come to understand in the same vein as maybe the other person has. As a result of these things the individual instead of maybe listening and obeying, may actually turn away from the cogent nature of the advisor and do pretty much the opposite to what was to be something helpful to the child’s growth. It’s very sad to see this happen, mainly because some people tend to think that children are their little programming software where they carry out their commands and the software is supposed to run exactly the way the programmer has programmed it.

In my own life experiences I have come across many who try to do the same thing and in some cases because of the pressure put on me I have actually rejected some things that could have been beneficial to my growth as well. I realize that now and am aware that good can be spoken from anyone, may it be someone who has no sensitivity to the other persons position and place in life; but I wonder, are so many potentially great lives destroyed because the programmer inputs the wrong program into the software package that God has provided that individual with?

So fellow bloggers, my main points in all of this is two things:

1.    If you’re somebody who can see that somebody close to you is doing something harmful to that persons personal life; when trying to advice the person, try to be SENSITIVE about the other persons situation and thoughts. If you don’t do this you might not get the desired results from your good intensions. Sometimes it takes time for people to change and lots and lots of personal experience and understanding from others. You should never think you have the right to change a person, it’s just plain WRONG! Many people heading in the right direction turn away from it and develop bitter hearts just because of this very reason.

2.        If you’re like me; stubborn and obstinate at times, then you need to change that. Everyone needs advice and direction, where can we get that from? OTHERS! Don’t think you know everything there is to know cause then you’re the biggest idiot on the planet! Learn to be humble and open to learning, it’ll do you endless good.

So that’s it for now I guess. I would also like to mention that I’m not writing this as an ‘advice giver’ but as someone who has learned these lessons through my own failings. So I hope this has proved enlightening and I’m all open to comment and criticism, so please indulge me! Until next time…Peace out!

P.S: A word of thanks to my good friend ‘Da Sloth’ for inspiring me to start writing once again…much appreciated buddy, cause writing actually helps me to take a closer look at my own SELF!